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Hi everyone, I lost my mom this morning to cancer and am having a bit of a hard time obviously. It's like everything I do seems useless and with no interest. I know it's very recent and it's probably normal but I know I'll need help and I thought maybe hearing about ppl who have gone through tough times similar to these would help me...... If anyone wants to share stories about ppl they have lost and advice about how to heal the wounds, I would very much appreciate it.
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My condolences to you and your family.
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My condolences to you and your family.
Thank you... I didn't think I would but I really appreciate every single one of those...
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i lost my mum the 17th of July 2010 because of the Parkinson disease and since then I'm an orphan : I miss her everyday but nothing you can do but coping ! I know the feeling ! Orphan because the 24th of March 1996 my father killed himself with a gun ! So I'm made of deceased parents but proud of having had such great mother and a father even he had loads of flaws had golden fingers !

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My sympathies to you and your family. Losing someone is so painful. I can only imagine what it'd be like to lose your own mother.

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I'm so sorry.
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I'm so sorry. I know anything any one of us says isn't going to make up for what you've lost, but I wish you all the best. I lost my dad nearly 5 years ago to liver and kidney failure. It's crazy how the time flies, and I miss him continuously. My biggest piece of advice is to talk about it with people. That was my biggest problem when that happened, I just shut down and didn't care to hear what people said. All of the "I'm sorry's" annoyed me at the time, I was only 16. In a way I blamed myself for what happened and I didn't let any emotion out it seemed like. But it catches up to you, I've spent a lot of the time feeling like a victim and was very defensive about a lot of stuff. So like I said, any time you feel it's necessary talk to someone - they will listen. Whether it's about the good times you've had, the pain you're going through now, or where to go from here - just talk to someone. Hope this helps you.

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I'm very sorry. I lost my bff 5 and a half years ago, he overdosed on Oxycoton a few days after admitting to me he had a problem. I don't really have any advice on how to cope, he was a funny cool guy with a great sense of humor and I still laugh from time to time when I see something I know he'd think was funny or would have made a good comment about. I thought about him every day for about a year or so, then it diminished over time, I'm not sure that happens with a parent. I do remember and cherish the fun times we enjoyed together.
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My heart felt sympathies to your family... You may not want to believe it, but you will come to terms with your loss with time... I lost my mom 3 years ago and still feel guilty for encouraging her to have breast cancer surgery which she did not want to have and never woke up from I also lost a very good friend to suicide 3 weeks ago Be strong-- losing a loved one definitely puts everything into perspective at the end of the day...

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omg im so sorry, my condolences
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It sucks so bad. You get into moments where the finality hits you and threatens to overwhelm. But take it from someone who knows, time won't ever stop the pain, but it'll help you get used to it.

My deepest condolences.

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I'm sorry, it sucks to lose someone you love I lost my closest aunt in 2008 and this year I lost another aunt. It sucks because I did not have the chance to say goodbye to both of them and I treat my first aunt really badly before she passed. I regret it so much If I could go back in time and tell her how much I appreciate her, I would. When you lose a person, you've learn not to take things for granted. But I keep dreaming about them when I'm asleep. I dreamt that they are with me and I went out with them. Of course I woke up and I've realised it's just a dream. But at least they are both with me at night and I can look at them in my dreams, even though it's my dream, it's still good enough So just stay strong and there's lots of other people who loved you. So spend you time wisely with them.

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sorry to hear that
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My condolences, I can only imagine the pain.

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I'm so sorry. I hope you're okay.

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