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How long , if ever , will it take my parents to fully accept me as gay ?

Today I brought a belt and she goes

' Ross, you do know this belt looks so gay '

I say

' I dont care '

She walks out and says

' It's very much what those sort of people wear, that's why it was in the sale '

Maybe she has accpeted me, but we never ever talk about it. Since she found out, we've never spoken out it, not even once.

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They may never.
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Yeah, probably never I am not telling my parents because I know they wont accept it.

Ain't nobody got time fo dat.
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Yeah, probably never I am not telling my parents because I know they wont accept it.
So, to them , you will never have a girlfriend all your life ?

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So, to them , you will never have a girlfriend all your life ?
Yeah, lately that is becoming a problem, they started asking me do I have a GF
I will tell them when I finish university and move out, because if I tell them now I am almost sure they wouldnt pay my studies anymore. Sounds scary but its true.

Ain't nobody got time fo dat.
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Re: How long , if ever , will it take my parents to fully accept me as gay ?

Same here I came out almost two years ago and they still refuse to believe it and they never talk about it, although I give them enough clues. My bf and I sleep together probably once a week, isn't that clear yet?

But I don't care anymore, I'm going to university tomorrow and then I don't have to live with my family anymore during the week so I can start a new honest life.

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They sound more accepting than many parents will ever be already.
It sucks, but that's the way it is.

If I weren't gay, and I had a son who turned out to be gay, I would probably have reacted badly too.

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I know this might be a tough pill to swallow, but if I were you, I'd work on accepting myself as gay until my parents/others come around. At a young age, you've had the courage to "come out" to your parents, but what now?

Well, many gay people, myself included, have had a problem with separating homosexuality from circuit parties, cute guys, and different kinds of sex. Though those are all fun and wonderful, find out about the "other" side of your gay self. Are there rights that are being denied you? How do you feel about your religion/God if you choose? Where would you like to see yourself ten/fifteen years from now when you're still gay?

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I know this might be a tough pill to swallow, but if I were you, I'd work on accepting myself as gay until my parents/others come around. At a young age, you've had the courage to "come out" to your parents, but what now?

Well, many gay people, myself included, have had a problem with separating homosexuality from circuit parties, cute guys, and different kinds of sex. Though those are all fun and wonderful, find out about the "other" side of your gay self. Are there rights that are being denied you? How do you feel about your religion/God if you choose? Where would you like to see yourself ten/fifteen years from now when you're still gay?
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Oh, it's a rather gentle suggestion. In other words, you've done the hard part, I'm merely suggesting that you find out more about "being gay" than you already know. If you have, then that's fine.

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Same here I came out almost two years ago and they still refuse to believe it and they never talk about it, although I give them enough clues. My bf and I sleep together probably once a week, isn't that clear yet?

But I don't care anymore, I'm going to university tomorrow and then I don't have to live with my family anymore during the week so I can start a new honest life.

You have your bf sleeping over with you at your parents' house?
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You have your bf sleeping over with you at your parents' house?
Yeah We're together for two years now, isn't it quite logic that you sleep together sometimes then

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I was lucky, my parents are pretty liberal minded.

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Oh, it's a rather gentle suggestion. In other words, you've done the hard part, I'm merely suggesting that you find out more about "being gay" than you already know. If you have, then that's fine.
Well I think everyone that comes out these days gets confronted with things like gay mariage, adoption and stuff like that. I'm happy to live in a country where you can marry the one you love, but at this stage in my life I don't need it yet. I'd rather help other young kids with their coming out, I'm considering to sign up for a project that makes this possible.

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Re: How long , if ever , will it take my parents to fully accept me as gay ?

Maybe, they had finally accepted that you were gay; but due to a personal grudge a certain poster informed them that you are not actually gay as you didnt worship his perfect body. So now they are in denial again
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