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post #1 of 17 (permalink) Old Jun 21st, 2009, 11:30 AM Thread Starter
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My friend told me that he is going to...

COMMIT SUICIDE.

Last night, my really good friend told me how much he wanted to kill himself because his ex-boyfriend lied about his HIV and infected my really good friend (that was 6 months ago).

Is there any advices that i can give him so he cannot commit suicide? I want to help him and i don't want him to ruin his families/friends' life if he kills himself! He's only 27 years old.

I only told him if he really REALLY cares about me and families/friends then he wouldn't do it. I asked him to seek some help from HIV counsellor!

In my opinion, having a HIV-positive friend makes no difference to me. I believe it's normal to have one or more. I love him very much as a friend.
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post #2 of 17 (permalink) Old Jun 21st, 2009, 01:21 PM
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If you are willing to testify he can get damages in court...

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has SM said if you testify he can get damages.

If you dont tell someone that you have HIV or AIDS is against the law. However if that doesnt work, just tell him its not as bad as it seems.

Aids isnt the same as it was 20 years ago.

It can be properly managed, and you can still live a normal and healthy life.

Its not worth it.
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With modern drugs and technology the onset of AIDS can be delayed by 10 years and ever longer.

He can still achieve a lot in his lifetime.
And like others have said, AIDS is not what it was 20 years ago.

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If this happened 6 months ago, he still has many good years left ahead of him. His life is far from over. Maybe he's feeling like his life is over because his ex-boyfriend betrayed him in such a horrible way. He needs to be counselled through that so he can see that he can still have a happy, normal and productive life for many years to come.

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Well, as long as he is talking, it is less likely that he actually will. I believe that in most cases this is a cry for help. More than anything, he wants someone to talk to. To listen to him. Don't be afraid to take him out for coffee.
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Actually ALOT OF PEOPLE HAVE AIDS and don't have symptoms and live to be old.. If he does have bad symtoms then we do have meds now.

There have been cases where AIDS have some how gone away.. there is a cure, humans have to discover it.

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be strong for him too. He needs to be loved and someone who listens to him

u should also try to arrange a meeting for him with a doctor, he will have all the answers at the moment u don't have


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post #9 of 17 (permalink) Old Jun 21st, 2009, 10:08 PM
 
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I only told him if he really REALLY cares about me and families/friends then he wouldn't do it.
Don't guilt trip him, that's not helpful.

Get him professional help.

It's not all about survival, there's the side effects of drugs, being open with family and of course the difficulties in finding future partners that are okay with it. Let's be serious here - many people aren't open to a relationship with someone that's HIV +ve unless they are as well.

I'm not surprised he's unhappy but this problem is not going to go away - he needs to talk it through with someone that can help him develop some coping mechanisms.
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cant you have him admitted to a pysch unit involuntarily for 24 hrs?

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I listen to podcasts by an infectious diseases specialist and he said that the drugs are so good now that he hasn't had anyone in his care die from AIDS this century.
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Get him professional help.

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I wouldn't be worried. Most people who kill themselves don't actually tell people beforehand.

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HIV is serious, yes the treatment has improved but some of you are acting like it's no worse than the common cold. A very dangerous mindset.

As for your friend, just be there for him, don't guilt trip him, and get him professional help.

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Re: My friend told me that he is going to...

Don't listen to the people that said if he's already talked about he probably won't do it.

I had a friend who told her closest friends and her boyfriend that she was going to kill herself...nobody listened or tried to help her...she jumped off a bridge and shattered her legs and pelvis. Thankfully she survived but if someone took her seriously she could have been helped.

Avoid a similar fate and make him feel loved constantly, maybe lots of loving text messages and routine lunch dates. Try to tell his family so they can be as loving, and try to get him to talk to a counselor.

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