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post #1 of 33 (permalink) Old Jun 14th, 2009, 12:35 AM Thread Starter
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I'm a failure.

Today I told my family that I don't want to go to uni after high school, that I want to go to Tafe for cooking.

Everyone was fine with it. Except my grandma who started crying.

The view in my family is that if you don't go to uni, you're fucking dumb. Well then in that case I'm a fucking idiot.


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post #2 of 33 (permalink) Old Jun 14th, 2009, 12:39 AM
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People have expectations, whether they be valid or not. You only gave your family a few minutes to get used to this new idea, albeit it was your decision all along.

Try not to judge people's reactions today but wait to see how they feel in a few months -- that will show how they truly feel. Either way, feel comfortable knowing that you made the right decision for yourself.
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post #3 of 33 (permalink) Old Jun 14th, 2009, 01:00 AM
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Chances of having a higher standard of living after attending college are much better than tech school. Your grandma wants the best for you.

Talk to her, let her know that you know she cares a lot, and you understand her reaction. Make sure she knows you intend to FINISH. And talk about what plans you have after graduation. There are many ways to use your cooking school education. Let her know what you will do with it.

And your reaction is really childish. She is letting you live your life. You are overreacting. Ask yourself why... that may help to resolve everything.
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post #4 of 33 (permalink) Old Jun 14th, 2009, 01:05 AM
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Oh no,probably you are still too young athough you think you are an adultThey definitely love you so much,they just tell you something that they have in their life experience,which apparetly you lack of I think.

And,if you think you life is only about youself,I don't agree with you.Blood is thicker than water.You are all connected.

And I doubt a decision made by oneself is always a right decision.For a 18-something years old boy or girl,they generally don't make a right decison when they look back 5 or 10 years later.

My suggestion is:you can now participate in works for one or two years then make a decision whether you need to go to university or not.But I am not sure if you want to go to university 1 year later, whether you will have the opportunity.
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post #5 of 33 (permalink) Old Jun 14th, 2009, 01:20 AM
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You just said they were fine with it (apart from your Grandma) but then also said they wont let you live you life the way you want. At the end of the day it could have been a lot worse, the majority of your family is supporting you in what you want to do and you should be greatful for that. Grandparents tend to be the most stubborn because things were different in 'their day' but I doubt she will actively try to stop you doing what you want to do

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post #6 of 33 (permalink) Old Jun 14th, 2009, 02:15 AM
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I'm sure your emotions are high right now, let things cool down and go from there. But remember, you only have one life, live it for yourself.

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post #7 of 33 (permalink) Old Jun 14th, 2009, 03:10 AM
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It's sad that your grandmother doesn't see it the way you do, but hey, you can't please them all. But I reckon she'll come around and be supportive.
I told my sister that I wanted to go to TAFE, but my sister said that if I told my dad he'd have a fit.
I don't think not going to uni doesn't mean your dumb, it just means you chose to do something else rather than what majority might have done.

Good luck in TAFE. Cook some good stuff, and maybe you can be on MasterChef or those shows

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post #8 of 33 (permalink) Old Jun 14th, 2009, 03:16 AM
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Just live your life. EYEYEYEYEYEY.
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Don't be such a drama queen, the others are fine with it. She'll learn to live with it.
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post #10 of 33 (permalink) Old Jun 14th, 2009, 03:25 AM
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who cares what your grandmother has to say? She's not hte one raising you and paying the bills is she? Cooking is a fine profession. Some people just are not cut out for school. Better to know what you want to do now and pursue it while you are young than try to please others and wait.

Blowing out someone else's candle does not make yours shine brighter.
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post #11 of 33 (permalink) Old Jun 14th, 2009, 03:55 AM
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My dad is such a pusher. So I do everything in my power to fuck him off

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lol... i think your making this out to be bigger than it is. although i am saying that after reading a 200 word summary.

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post #13 of 33 (permalink) Old Jun 14th, 2009, 07:15 AM
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just do what makes YOU happy, its that simple. you dont want to be working in a job you HATE for 40 years, do you?

you should only go to uni if its a prerequisite for a certain job or field of work you want to get in to, and never just go for the sake of going or for your grandmother.

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post #15 of 33 (permalink) Old Jun 14th, 2009, 08:17 AM
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Okay Gordon!

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