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Having a sister makes you happier and more optimistic, say psychologists

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Having a sister makes you happier and more optimistic, say psychologists

Having a sister makes you happier and more optimistic, a new study shows, but the same is not true for having a brother.

By Kate Devlin
Last Updated: 3:49PM BST 03 Apr 2009

Growing up with at least one girl in the family also makes people more able to cope with their problems, according to the study.

Daughters tie loved ones closer together and encourage them to communicate their emotions more effectively, the researchers believe.

Prof Tony Cassidy, from the University of Ulster, who carried out the study with researchers from De Montfort University in Leicester, said that having a sister helped to promote good mental health.

He said: "Sisters appear to encourage more open communication and cohesion in families. However, brothers seem to have the alternative effect. Emotional expression is fundamental to good psychological health and having sisters promotes this in families."

Girls who had sisters also tended to be more independent and keen on achievement, according to the findings.

The effects were stronger among children from broken homes, suggesting that sisters might lean on each other more for support when their parents divorce.

Prof Cassidy added that the lowest scores were among boys who had only brothers.

"It could be that boys have a natural tendency not to talk about things," he said. "With boys together it is about a conspiracy of silence not to talk. Girls tend to break that down."

The study questioned 571 young adults, aged between 17 and 25, about the make-up of their families and their emotional well-being.

Only children tended to score in the middle range for happiness and optimism.

Liz Wright, the co-author of the study, said: "With only children we found that they had lots of strong communication outside of the home. It appears that they have as much social support as those with siblings, but it does not come from within the family."

The findings will be presented today at the British Psychological Society annual meeting in Brighton.

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I don't know whether it is ture,But I have 2 sisters,I feel very happy and we love each other very much
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well I have a sister, and she really ticks me off sometimes

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Makes a lot of sense.
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That's absolute bull.

I feel very very very antsy even with my sister.
And in no way I feel optimistic.

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No wonder I'm always so pessimistic and sad.
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well having a brother certainly doesn't do it..
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my sister is fucked hope i never have to see her again thats bs
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I don't know whether it is ture,But I have 2 sisters,I feel very happy and we love each other very much
Same here. We have our moments where we disagree but all in all, we're very close.

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Yeah, i'd go along with that. I'm probably closer to my sister than my older brother.

Interesting note, she's the only girl i've ever fought, and promptly lost.

We were 8 and 10 at the time though
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I really don't know. I guess it could be true depending if you're close in age. From my experience, my sister is 6 years older than me and we didn't get along at all. We still don't get along. She was more of an authority figure to me than a sister. My mom and dad were always out working and she practically helped raised and disciplined me. So I grew up resenting her, because I felt that she was not my mother and had no rights to do and say certain things to me. She would ordering me around and so forth and getting me in trouble if I didn't listen to her. She was very strict and not loving. Even though we're both grown adults today, she still sees me as the little sister who should obey her.

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I really don't know. I guess it could be true depending if you're close in age. From my experience, my sister is 6 years older than me and we didn't get along at all. We still don't get along. She was more of an authority figure to me than a sister. My mom and dad were always out working and she practically helped raised and disciplined me. So I grew up resenting her, because I felt that she was not my mother and had no rights to do and say certain things to me. She would ordering me around and so forth and getting me in trouble if I didn't listen to her. She was very strict and not loving. Even though we're both grown adults today, she still sees me as the little sister who should obey her.
I totally understand you,but I think she is very much loving you,she really cares you very much,you must be very important in her heart and maybe she always wants to protect you.Try to understand her,I actually feel happy for you.
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I totally understand you,but I think she is very much loving you,she really cares you very much,you must be very important in her heart and maybe she always wants to protect you.Try to understand her,I actually feel happy for you.
Thanks. You're right. But as a kid, I didn't see it that way.

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You know... I think I can understand what they're trying to say. I have a quite feminine personality and I tend to be the one who patches up things after arguments between my brother and my mom. And I do encourage all that communication stuff.

But my main problem with the article is when they say:
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"It could be that boys have a natural tendency not to talk about things," he said. "With boys together it is about a conspiracy of silence not to talk. Girls tend to break that down."
I find this really annoying because I don't think it's really a natural gender difference, as much as it is a socialised one. You probably find proof of this from the people in this thread calling this bull... the set of circumstances you need to get feminine personalities and affects etc (as pointed to by this article), probably weren't all there. On the whole boys and girls are reared differently and this explains many so-called "natural differences". Combine this with individual differences... the generality of the message comes into problems.


I guess what I'm trying to say is that if I was writing this article, I could emphasises the behaviours and tendencies that help family relations, without atributing them to gender and hence passing them off as natural differences - because people get the wrong idea and it's just not true that way. The truth seems to be that behaviours typically associated with females (the product of girl oriented child rearing) can help better family relations. In truth, there are boys who carry out this role and girls who don't.

So I don't think the article is bull... it's just written in a bullshitty way.

Hope that makes sense.
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