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Fear/ low confidence 32 61.54%
Shame 5 9.62%
Love for another 1 1.92%
Self-loathing 5 9.62%
A destructive relationship 1 1.92%
Physical or verbal abuse 0 0%
Religion/culture 3 5.77%
Jealousy/Envy/Anger 5 9.62%
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What's the main thing that holds YOU back in life?

We all hear the term 'depression' bandied about. Oh of course debilitating mental illness exists, but as we're all individuals, it's quite often not helpful to use such an umbrella term in my opinion. It's also sometimes even more destructive to the self-esteem to believe that you have a disease of the mind: it becomes self-perpetuating.

So, let's break it down. What is the main sentiment, if you can sum it up in one word, which holds you back. Choose one, even if the others seem applicable as well, that, if tackled, would emancipate you enough to work on the rest.
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Re: What's the main thing that holds YOU back in life?

procrastination

it's been beating my ass since I was 14 years old.

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i see the poll now, lol.
ehhh, low self-confidence.
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Re: What's the main thing that holds YOU back in life?

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procrastination

it's been beating my ass since I was 14 years old.
Me too!!

But what makes you procrastinate? There must be a reason.
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Re: What's the main thing that holds YOU back in life?

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procrastination

it's been beating my ass since I was 14 years old.

*edit*

i see the poll now, lol.
ehhh, low self-confidence.
Oh, I missed your comment lower down.
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My love of Sally Struthers.

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Re: What's the main thing that holds YOU back in life?

on the poll: low self confidence, but overall, Procrasitination by FAR

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Re: What's the main thing that holds YOU back in life?

low self-confidence

I can be very hard on myself at times.I wish i would see all the wondeful things i have acheived and be satisfied with things more often...
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Re: What's the main thing that holds YOU back in life?

Fear and low confidence.

I should be in a much better place academically or career wise than I am right now, but for those reasons haven't mustered the effort to get myself where I know that I should be.

It's one thing to know I should be doing better than I am, and another thing to believe it, feel it, and do something about it.
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Irrational fears of everyday things. That, and getting my pubic hair caught in the car door last Tuesday. It wasn't even my car!
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Someone with more money and power than my current employer seeing, in me, the same things my current employer sees in me.

I picked "culture" but I mean "corporate culture" (for example no relatives in positions of power )



Once you climb high enough up the corporate ladder there are nice little gaps in that ladder and someone has to drop down the extension in order for us "mere mortals" to keep climbing. I may have gone as far as I can go on this path...and I'm happy with that...for now.

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Re: What's the main thing that holds YOU back in life?

Lack of self-discipline.
If I dont WANT to do something, I have to make myself do it. And its hard to make myself do anything.
Im not sure about which of your options reflects that.


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Re: What's the main thing that holds YOU back in life?

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procrastination

it's been beating my ass since I was 14 years old.

*edit*

i see the poll now, lol.
ehhh, low self-confidence.
Same thing here. Though I improved. There are just too many things these days to waste your time on.
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Re: What's the main thing that holds YOU back in life?

Hmm I'm not sure I can pick one exactly from that list.

I'm a perfectionist so when things don't go exactly like I have planned out in my head I get discouraged. I like to have complete control of all apsects of my life which obviously is very difficult.

Lately though I have lost a lot of focus due to "love for another" which I swore I never would do. But they are definetly that cliche perfect person. Unfortunatly they are not an option and never will be. So I have to be content with being friends with them, which is a whole other mess.

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Re: What's the main thing that holds YOU back in life?

Fear/low confidence with a dash of Self-loathing
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Re: What's the main thing that holds YOU back in life?

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procrastination
Oh God, yes.

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Lack of self-discipline.
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