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Why do we put ourselves through it? Relationships and Love?

Valentines Day has to be the worst day in the whole world! Why can't we just be like animals, for them it's just wham bam thank you m'am?

I've stupidly asked someone over to my house for Valentines, I've liked this guy for so long and he split up with his girlfriend a few months back, but I was involved with someone. Now we're both single my friend said I should go for it. I don't even know if he remembers me asking him, we were drunk and he described it as a "sad lonely hearts slitting wrists session."

I have no idea if he likes me, I only invited him as a friend to watch movies. But it makes me feel sick inside just thinking about it or him, I get so nevous and I just want this feeling to go away. He doesn't even go for girls like me, I'm so not his type. Why am I putting myself through this? Everyday I start having doubts and I want to just stop myself. My mind is divided one part wants him so bad and the other knows this will all end in my tears and I should save myself from that now.

This is the first time I felt this way about anyone, usually I'm persued and I come round to liking them. This is a whole new territory and I hate it!

Why do we put ourselves through this pain?
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[QUOTE]Why do we put ourselves through this pain?[QUOTE]

Alcohol..
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Because having sex with someone that you're in love with is the best thing in the world.
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We do it because we all want that one person to love and to love us back.
Believe me, even if you guys DO get together, there will still be trying times. Relationships are about work. If you never have to work at it, then you dont have a relationship. You have to talk and communicate and be there for each other, and understand that some days will be bad days and some days will be good days.

Maybe you should ask him again and see what he says. The worst thing that can happen is he will say no ... but then you can move on. The best thing that can happen is that he will say yes ... and things can progress from there.

We put ourselves out there at the risk of getting hurt, but the feeling of being in love is worth the risk.
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Relationships on a platonic/professional level, so I don't lose my mind from complete sanity, that's why I keep those. I don't do the love thing--yet. I figure, I'm 18 and stupid, why bother? Much more important things right now.
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Because the alternative is worse.
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Valentines Day has to be the worst day in the whole world! Why can't we just be like animals, for them it's just wham bam thank you m'am?

I've stupidly asked someone over to my house for Valentines, I've liked this guy for so long and he split up with his girlfriend a few months back, but I was involved with someone. Now we're both single my friend said I should go for it. I don't even know if he remembers me asking him, we were drunk and he described it as a "sad lonely hearts slitting wrists session."

I have no idea if he likes me, I only invited him as a friend to watch movies. But it makes me feel sick inside just thinking about it or him, I get so nevous and I just want this feeling to go away. He doesn't even go for girls like me, I'm so not his type. Why am I putting myself through this? Everyday I start having doubts and I want to just stop myself. My mind is divided one part wants him so bad and the other knows this will all end in my tears and I should save myself from that now.

This is the first time I felt this way about anyone, usually I'm persued and I come round to liking them. This is a whole new territory and I hate it!

Why do we put ourselves through this pain?
Cause when it comes to romance and love human beings are idiots, and I think like to pu themselves through hell.

Good luck with the guy though, I so totally know how you feel btw.

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Because it's hard getting tricks to toss my salad!
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It's so good to know others go through the same thing, even though my friends give me advice and are there for me, I feel all alone, because when it comes down to it, I have to do it all alone. It'll just be me and him on wednesday and in whatever happens after.
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Because... we all want to find our one and only. It's out there for everyone... but you have to stumble and fall, and rise again before you find it. I imagine there's no feeling better... than being someone's one and only.

Because... it'll be worth it some day.

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Wow i'll admit the alcohol thing was not that surprising considering your a girl who probably tends to get hung up over stuff too much.

but YOU having a problem getting a guy truly baffles me!

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We put ourselves out there at the risk of getting hurt, but the feeling of being in love is worth the risk.

Well said Dallas Totally true.

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Re: Why do we put ourselves through it? Relationships and Love?

I know exactly what you mean...this guy and I have been in "awkward" territory for about a year now. I knew he liked me at one point, but it was bad timing for me. He knew I liked him at one point, but it was bad timing for him. Now the tension between us is suffocating.

I do catch myself wondering "what if...?" but oh well. Why don't you think you're his type, you're gorgeous
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Unless you're really close friends and can't afford to lose the friendship then you've just got to make a move.

If you're as good looking as people are saying there aren't many blokes who wouldn't at least give you a chance. Don't say the things you're writing on here because that could freak him out but at the same time don't sit around fearing rejection because that's no way to live. it's good for a person to get the taste of rejection once in a while because it makes you a more empathetic person.
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