OMG you are way to scared about this and thinking too hard about what to do. That scares me for you, because you can't put on a personality for her. Not possible for more than a few weeks. So you have to be real and be yourself. Also worries me that you are too used to using alcohol to break down the barriers and unable to be real without it. Typical for college student but you HAVE to use this relationship to change that, or you might not eve,r and when you are older is a much worse time to have to have that crutch.
oh i am real and myself, that's no problem. alcohol is alcohol, i don't change or anything.
That being said, it's good that you want some ideas.
First of all talk to her about the fact that you already had sex and does she want to take a little break from it to get to know each other - and the two of you can draw the line somewhere before that - or is it cool just to keep having sex while you get to know each other. Don't just see what happens... this is the beginning of a partnership and you want to shape it together by talking about it. Definitely keep that heat turned way up, either way.
that's a good question...i figured we wouldn't talk about it, but now i see the importance of talking about it.
You have to talk about that right away, then it won't be awkward, well maybe a little but it will be worth it. If you wait then it's too late...that golden time will have passed You can get many topics brought up and discussed and straightened out if you do it right at this time in the relationship... it is perfect. Anything you want her to know about you too, just mention it to her now.
hm. this is great advice. thank you.
As for what to do, jeez I could list 100 ideas. Where are you?, what is the weather like?, do you have a car?, much or little money?, what do you enjoy and what do you know about what she enjoys?
upstate new york, cold as all fuck, i have a car, i have money...when it comes to 'date' stuff, i like everything. i'm a little anti-movies because you can't talk, though.
If you think you might get into some kind of schedule due busy school/life schedule - like you can get together Thursday nights and all day Saturday - then you can decide to take turns making plans.
this is a great consideration.
i honestly don't think i want a girlfriend, but we do have a chemistry and i don't want to ruin it. i'm just going to let her know that i'm REALLY busy and we'll have to go slow.