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Yes I am Angry, and I embrace it and do not want to change this 6 15.79%
Yes, I am Angry and I know it is negative and destructive; I seek to change it 7 18.42%
I have been an Angry person in my past, but I learned how to change that; now I am not. 9 23.68%
No, not Angry now and no history of deep Anger 16 42.11%
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post #1 of 30 (permalink) Old Apr 15th, 2006, 10:58 PM Thread Starter
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Angry?

Are you Angry? Why? What makes you Angry? Do you wish you could not be Angry? What have you tried to change it? Anyone ever gone to Anger Management classes? Or seen a counselor about it? Have you ever hurt anyone physically in an act of Anger? Do you find yourself hurting anyone mentally/emotionally because of your Anger?

If you are not Angry, why do you think that is for you while others are so Angry? Would you give any advice to others about it?

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Anger can be the result of hurt pride, of unreasonable expectations, or of repeated hostile fantasies. Besides getting our way, we may unconsciously use anger to blame others for our own shortcomings, to justify oppressing others, to boost our own sagging egos, to conceal other feelings, and to handle other emotions (as when we become aggressive when we are afraid). Any situation that frustrates us, especially when we think someone else is to blame for our loss, is a potential trigger for anger and aggression.


So, what is frustration? It is the feeling we get when we don't get what we want, when something interferes with our gaining a desired and expected goal. It can be physical (a flat tire), our own limitations (paralysis after an accident), our choices (an unprepared for and flunked exam), others' actions (parental restrictions or torturing a political prisoner), others' motives (deception for a self-serving purpose), or society's injustice (born into poverty and finding no way out).

Anger is feeling mad in response to frustration or injury. You don't like what has happened and usually you'd like to get revenge. Anger is an emotional-physiological-cognitive internal state; it is separate from the behavior it might prompt. In some instances, angry emotions are beneficial; if we are being taken advantage of, anger motivates us to take action (not necessarily aggressive) to correct the situation. Aggression is action, i.e. attacking someone or a group. It is intended to harm someone. It can be a verbal attack--insults, threats, sarcasm, or attributing nasty motives to them--or a physical punishment or restriction. What about thoughts and fantasies in which we humiliate or brutally assault our enemies? Is that aggression? What about violent dreams? Such thoughts and dreams suggest anger, of course, but are not aggression as I have defined it here.

http://www.mentalhelp.net/psyhelp/chap7/chap7b.htm

(edit: replaced web link with a better one. lot of good info here.)

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I'm angry right now, because I'm injured and I have a tournament coming up.
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I'm angry right now, because I'm injured and I have a tournament coming up.
omg that's so weird so am i

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omg that's so weird so am i
What's wrong with you?
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What's wrong with you?
i think i pulled a mucle in my left arm, i can hardly move my arm for the past 2 days, how about u?

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I'm angry on so many levels, it's almost hard to comprehend. But even if I seeked to change it, I don't think I can until I go off to college.

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I'm angry on so many levels, it's almost hard to comprehend. But even if I seeked to change it, I don't think I can until I go off to college.
How do you be so nice to everybody, then?
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How do you be so nice to everybody, then?
Well I channel the anger, and knowing what I'm angry at makes me avoid doing the same thing that's making me angry, and it just makes me a better person I guess.

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I'm only ever angry with a hangover. Have never injured anyone with anger, coz I know it would hurt my hand too...makes no sense to me

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I'm only ever angry with a hangover. Have never injured anyone with anger, coz I know it would hurt my hand too...makes no sense to me
I remember this once, I was just absolutely livid, and I wanted to break something really bad, but I didn't want to actually cause dents and broken shards of glass on the floor, so I just threw my water bottle around the house, hitting the wall and making lots of noise

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I remember this once, I was just absolutely livid, and I wanted to break something really bad, but I didn't want to actually cause dents and broken shards of glass on the floor, so I just threw my water bottle around the house, hitting the wall and making lots of noise
Classic

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I remember being in Grade 6 and being really riled up by this kid in my class...and I started walking towards him with windmill punches I really couldn't fight my way out of a wet paper bag

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I'm angry with school, family stuff and tennis- was 4/1 up and serving and hurt my achilles and lost 6/4 6/2
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I'm angry with school, family stuff and tennis- was 4/1 up and serving and hurt my achilles and lost 6/4 6/2
im sorry, hope u get better soon

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I remember being in Grade 6 and being really riled up by this kid in my class...and I started walking towards him with windmill punches I really couldn't fight my way out of a wet paper bag
Windmill punches?

I've never actually been that angry, and I've never really liked the idea of taking out my anger on other people. I guess consideration and morality gets to me more than anger does But anyway, another thing that helps me is music

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