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How do you start a conversation with strangers/someone you haven't seen in a while?

I've always wondered about the different strategies of talking to someone you don't know or who you haven't seen in a long time. What do you do to not make it awkward? The reason why I ask is because I have to go on a coffee-date with someone tomorrow who I haven't seen in a LONG time but talk to on MSN constantly and I don't know what to say because I've said everything!
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I've always wondered about the different strategies of talking to someone you don't know or who you haven't seen in a long time. What do you do to not make it awkward? The reason why I ask is because I have to go on a coffee-date with someone tomorrow who I haven't seen in a LONG time but talk to on MSN constantly and I don't know what to say because I've said everything!
Just be youreself and remember the other person is prolly feeling awkward too

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Just be youreself and remember the other person is prolly feeling awkward too
No I doubt it seriously...she's like so talkative
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This may sound crazy but start off the conversation with this exact thread? Tell your friend how you feel and watch the conversation flow naturally.

Laugh and begin to explain that you two have talked online so much that it is hard to think of words in person. You both will probably feel a bit relieved and start up even more conversation. Also just because your friend is talkative doesn't mean she can't be feeling the same way. Alot of nervous and scared people talk alot to overcome their fears doing that may make them feel more in a comfort zone. :-)

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No I doubt it seriously...she's like so talkative
Well, that's good then-- people who talk a lot don't often like to listen

Also, I find that people really like it if you compliment them, but on a more personal level. For example, instead of telling her that her shirt is cool, tell her that you like the fit. Instead of telling her her hair is nice tell her she smells good. And to make it more genuine...always ask, "where they got it" and that you "want it." This will make it even more genuine.

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This may sound crazy but start off the conversation with this exact thread? Tell your friend how you feel and watch the conversation flow naturally.

Laugh and begin to explain that you two have talked online so much that it is hard to think of words in person. You both will probably feel a bit relieved and start up even more conversation. Also just because your friend is talkative doesn't mean she can't be feeling the same way. Alot of nervous and scared people talk alot to overcome their fears doing that may make them feel more in a comfort zone. :-)
No, I would never tell her about this place

It's just I mean I don't know what I'm going to say to her when I've seen her just one month ago (casually, just a walk by) and talk to her on MSN all the time. Like I mean it would be so awkward if I was like this is weird since we're not talking on MSN, she'd think I'm some kind of freak.
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Well, that's good then-- people who talk a lot don't often like to listen

Also, I find that people really like it if you compliment them, but on a more personal level. For example, instead of telling her that her shirt is cool, tell her that you like the fit. Instead of telling her her hair is nice tell her she smells good. And to make it more genuine...always ask, "where they got it" and that you "want it." This will make it even more genuine.

Works every time.
That's a little too personal for my liking. Besides if I ask her where she got her perfume from and that I want it she'll think I'm gay

The thing is though I talk a lot too and if I don't know what to say and don't talk she'll find it awkward because she expects me to talk a lot. Fuck I'm screwed I'm meeting her in like 10 hours
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just rock up and talk about whatever comes to mind.

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Well it's a good thing that she's talkative I say cos talkative ppl tend to like talking to less talkative people and vice-versa.
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strangely enough for me, making an idiot of myself works perfectly. i find it really easy to laugh at myself and just as easy to get other people to laugh at me. once i've become an object of amusement theres no awkwardness...
its weird. but people still manage to respect me...i have nooo idea why.
i actually just started talking to someone i hadnt spoken to in years and we spent the whole time laughing at each other. it was great
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