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post #1 of 34 (permalink) Old Jun 20th, 2005, 09:49 PM Thread Starter
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How do you get over someone?

I need help getting over someone. I have MAJOR feelings for this person...but they just want to be my friend. I've had this problem before, but not like this. I just turned 24, I thought i'd be over the crush faze of my life. HELP!!!!!

Really, don't even look at me...
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I was going to start a thread similar to this a few weeks ago. I was crazy about somebody that everyone (both in real life and online) was saying was bad for me and I wanted to stop having the feelings I had for her cause I thought it was wrong. But anyway, I'm with her now and bollocks to the people who don't like her. I like her and I'm the one who matters

Unrequited love is horrible though...
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Heard it all before I'm sure, but 'time'

Also, if you feel that bad around them, ween yourself from them. Seeing them all the time, especially if they have relationships, will only make you feel much worse
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Heard it all before I'm sure, but 'time'

Also, if you feel that bad around them, ween yourself from them. Seeing them all the time, especially if they have relationships, will only make you feel much worse
Yup, this person has a relationship. I've know him for almost 2 years...and the feelings have been getting stronger and stronger. I want to seperate myself, but then I'll miss him.

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Yup, this person has a relationship. I've know him for almost 2 years...and the feelings have been getting stronger and stronger. I want to seperate myself, but then I'll miss him.
It's hard.

Been in a similar situation.

My partner cheated, I still loved (or thought I did) and carried on 'seeing her' but in the end it destroyed me for ages as she didn't want me.

I'm now with another girl who I marry in August, 3 kids, 4th on the way and I am now happier than I ever believed I would be again.

And by some strange coincidence, I was 24 when the agony began and I'm now 29 (Well I will be in 40 minutes )
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And by some strange coincidence, I was 24 when the agony began and I'm now 29 (Well I will be in 40 minutes )

LOL!!!!

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just try to seperate yourself from the person. it's hard when you let yourself fall and the other person doesnt have the same feelings. just give yourself time and space, and you'll be fine.
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i know how unrequited love feels. i can empathise.

Good luck to the Aussie and Balkan girls!
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I haven't been in the situation myself, but I know a person who's had to get over me That really is an awful feeling for that person too by the way, but of course more difficult for the one in your situation!

I'll repeat what others have been saying in this thread: time is the best recipe And not seeing each other during all this time is the best recipe too I'm afraid... You really don't want to see yourself angry, jealous, frustrated, etc by keeping contact with this person and knowing everything about his private life. Or feeling emprisoned by getting those feelings back again and again. Please don't do that to yourself... There's no 100% pain-free way to get trough this I'm afraid, but the most effective and pain-free way is definitely the seperate way! Talk to friends about it, have a laugh, immerse yourself into work/hobby/something that totally sucks you up and finally, when you feel like you're really moving on, lay your eye on other victims Cheer up, you'll get over it sooner than you think, I'm sure!
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I need help getting over someone. I have MAJOR feelings for this person...but they just want to be my friend. I've had this problem before, but not like this. I just turned 24, I thought i'd be over the crush faze of my life. HELP!!!!!
i think i have been where you are and it was not pretty. i think the most important thing to realize is that its done, there is nothing there.

do things that you like to do. everyone says to hang out with friends and that is important. also do things that you like to do, alone. rollerblading taking pics and so on.

but also it can take time. a few day weeks or months. either way you need to care for yourself and give yourself the time that you need.

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i also hate it when its the reversal and someone likes u , u like them too but just not on the level of wanting a r'ship. i mean how do u say NO without hurting someone?

Good luck to the Aussie and Balkan girls!
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The truth is that I am still not quite over my first love and that was in excess of 25 years ago! She still lives in my heart.
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Repress, honey! Just keep it inside. Learn how to hide your feelings.

(Maybe Melissa Manchester isn't the best shrink.)

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Delete them from your call list.
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post #15 of 34 (permalink) Old Jun 21st, 2005, 02:34 AM
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stalk them and beat them into submission. life's a game, play to win.
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