Originally Posted by CanadianBoy19
I am 20 now, and couple days ago I told my mom I'm gay.
It was very emotional.
My parents, especially my dad has been setting up a marriage basically for me.
He would kill me if I told him, so I told my mom.
It was the scariest thing I have ever done. I don't know where I got the courage to do it. My mom was very good about it, and emotional of course. She said she'll always love me, but that she doesn't understand. She told me I am still developing and will change maybe. I told her I'm 20 and will not. So she doesn't understand, but I didn't expect it.
So much going on now, but I am glad I got it off my chest.
I had to write about it to order my thoughts.
I can't express in words how hard it was for me.
Anyone else have stories about their coming out, or someone that came out to you?
Do we live identical lives or something?? I did the samething, literally about two-three weeks ago, and I'm 20 myself.
Last month, end of April and beginning of May, I was on the verge of just a total break down. I was totally depressed and just stressed out with many things going on in my life. From coming out to my family, to just friendship problems up at school, and finals coming up that I hadn't been preparing for, not to mention spending my last few days with a friend who would be transferring to a new school come the next semester.
I just couldn't take not telling my family anymore, and felt like I had to tell someone or I would explode. I planned to tell my mom, the one I thought would be the most understanding, on the ride home, when she picked me up from college, but I couldn't do it. When the radio didn't work in the car, I literally was on the verge of tears a few times, but just couldn't do it. I just couldn't say it.
So, what do I do?? I wrote her a letter in a Thank You card, basically telling her I was gay, but also how much I loved her, and thanked her for always being there for me, and being a great mother. I laid it on her bed one night, and left the house. I came home, and she didn't say a word to me, and just went on normal. I t continued for a few days, and it was killing me. The silence of not knowing what she thought was killing me myself. Again, I started to cry... LoL... until one day, she came home from work, went into her room, and like 10 minutes later, came into my room, and just put her arms open for a hug, and the waterworks from her came. She just told me she was always proud of me and will always love me, and just asked if I was sure and how long I knew. And we haven't talked about it since, so I guess she's totally accepting of it...
...and let me tell you... I feel like so much pressure was lifted off my shoulder, and I am basically happy now. Now, as for the rest of the family, I don't know when that will happen.
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