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because men can be hateful and evil. they tell lies, tell you what you wanna hear, then act like little boys and go back on every word they've ever said.
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TennisIlove - I understand your pain..

Ive been in 3 serious rships and Ive been cheated on twice. At the time it feels like your whole world has fallen out from underneath you and the feeling of betrayal is so intense that it really does give you an insight into how fine-a-line, the difference between love and hate really is. Intense emotions like love can quickly turn into an equally intense feeling of hate..

Whatever feelings you are having right now the important thing is dont fight them..dont resist them.. let yourself feel whatever you are feeling. What you resist, persists. The best way to move on from negative thoughts and emotions is just to let them go through you, recognise the fact you are feeling that way, and eventually you'll grow tired of feeling like that choose a different feeling.

The best way to dealing with being cheated on is to try - eventually - to move out of the victim mentality. When you first find out you feel like such a victim but that feeling can trap you inside that cycle of feeling victimised so its important to try and move on from the victim mentality asap. What helped me to deal with it and regain my 'zest for life' after feeling totally gutted, was realising one day that they guys who cheated on me want just the same thing out of life that I do - basically to be happy.

To be happy is basically what all of us want. Once I realised that I wasnt the person that could make my partner happy, it took away some of the sharpness of the pain of being cheated on and allowed me to view the whole thing as pretty typical and blunted that sharp pain of betrayal etc i.e 'how could you do it to me" etc.. once I realised that my ex's are on the same sort of journey that I myself am on - searching for happiness and seeking to evolve as a human being, I didnt feel so completely shitty and eventually forgave the guys for doing it and the two that cheated are now 2 of my best friends.. When I understood that they didnt cheat, specifically to hurt me personally, simply because our rship wasnt fulfilling them so they needed to find that fulfillment elsewhere, I was a long way toward having dealt with it and moving on.
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Men are big fucking assholes. That's why. Czechfan, all you said was great and lovely, but men are just assholes. There's no other way to justify their behavior - especially gay men.

If I didn't need men to have sex, I really wouldn't be talking to them. It's sad, I know.
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TennisIlove - I understand your pain..

Ive been in 3 serious rships and Ive been cheated on twice. At the time it feels like your whole world has fallen out from underneath you and the feeling of betrayal is so intense that it really does give you an insight into how fine-a-line, the difference between love and hate really is. Intense emotions like love can quickly turn into an equally intense feeling of hate..

Whatever feelings you are having right now the important thing is dont fight them..dont resist them.. let yourself feel whatever you are feeling. What you resist, persists. The best way to move on from negative thoughts and emotions is just to let them go through you, recognise the fact you are feeling that way, and eventually you'll grow tired of feeling like that choose a different feeling.

The best way to dealing with being cheated on is to try - eventually - to move out of the victim mentality. When you first find out you feel like such a victim but that feeling can trap you inside that cycle of feeling victimised so its important to try and move on from the victim mentality asap. What helped me to deal with it and regain my 'zest for life' after feeling totally gutted, was realising one day that they guys who cheated on me want just the same thing out of life that I do - basically to be happy.

To be happy is basically what all of us want. Once I realised that I wasnt the person that could make my partner happy, it took away some of the sharpness of the pain of being cheated on and allowed me to view the whole thing as pretty typical and blunted that sharp pain of betrayal etc i.e 'how could you do it to me" etc.. once I realised that my ex's are on the same sort of journey that I myself am on - searching for happiness and seeking to evolve as a human being, I didnt feel so completely shitty and eventually forgave the guys for doing it and the two that cheated are now 2 of my best friends.. When I understood that they didnt cheat, specifically to hurt me personally, simply because our rship wasnt fulfilling them so they needed to find that fulfillment elsewhere, I was a long way toward having dealt with it and moving on.


Thanks hun...right now, I dont feel like I could ever forgive him. The worst part is, he's already with someone else? like two days later...he's with someone else
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wow... it's not even women doing the male-bashing... *subscribes to thread for future argument's sake*

Men... err People cheat because they are selfish or cowards or both. Instead of properly ending a relationship before they go into another one, they find it easier to sneak and cheat or find it exciting. Or they're whores who want a sure thing and the ability to have it on the side. They usually want freedom and stability which are not mutually exclusive.

In short, they cheat because they can.


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Men cheat because they are selfish and only care about their own pleasure. That's the reality of the situation, Dallas. It's a sad fact because it's true.

I'll tell you a little story:

There was once a gay man who "hung out" with another gay man for about a month and a half. They went out to dinner, watch movies, held hands, & hooked up several times -- and of course cuddled. After that month and a half of getting to know one another on a somewhat personal and intimate level, 1/2 of the gay pair, who we will refer to as BIGGEST ASSHOLE ON THE PLANET, lets the other one know, who we will call POOR WELL-DRESSED VICTIM, that he had some other gay guy, who we will call STUPID-ASS CRACK WHORE, suck his dick. To compensate STUPID-ASS CRACK WHORE for his service, BIGGEST ASSHOLE ON THE PLANET proceeds to masturbate him. POOR WELL-DRESSED VICTIM is distraught upon receiving such information from BIGGEST ASSHOLE ON THE PLANET because he thought this month and a half of hanging out was actually leading to something. He gets very, very upset at BIGGEST ASSHOLE ON THE PLANET (BAOTP) and refuses to ever talk to him again. BIGGEST ASSHOLE ON THE PLANET replies with, "I thought we were just hanging out. I didn't know something was going on with us. It was never official." POOR WELL-DRESSED VICTIM (PW-DV) is flabberghasted by the gaul of BAOTP. PW-DV is an idiot and a couple of months later forgives BAOTP after weeks of shameless apologies. PW-DV however becomes so paranoid that BAOTP will fuck up again that he could not help but worry everytime BAOTP is out somewhere else. PW-DV then breaks it off for the second time because he could not trust BAOTP. In short, BAOTP ruins PW-DV's ability to trust men.

There's the story kids. I hope you learn from PW-DV's mistakes.
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I feel for everyone who's ever been cheated on.
Both of my trick-azz wives cheated on me, so I showed 'em both the door...
...after taking back the cars I bought em and credits cards of course.

Men, if you wanna get back at a woman for cheating, close out her credit card accounts.

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Women cheat cause they want attention and love generally... or they are just hoes.

Men cheat cause they can and they want to stay young.
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Thanks hun...right now, I dont feel like I could ever forgive him. The worst part is, he's already with someone else? like two days later...he's with someone else
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