Should people change their names upon marriage? -
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Both should keep their names. 22 41.51%
Woman should change name to that of man. 10 18.87%
Man should change name to that of woman. 0 0%
Both should hyphenate names. 5 9.43%
Woman should hyphenate name. 2 3.77%
Man should hyphenate name. 0 0%
What a stupid poll. 5 9.43%
I don't care, as long as no one touches my name. 9 16.98%
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post #1 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 10:33 AM Thread Starter
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Should people change their names upon marriage?

Nowadays in most Western countries, the majority of people will tell you they believe in the equality of the sexes. Yet most women either change their name to that of their husband or add his in a hyphenated form, while his remains the same. I have always been curious as to the rationale of this, and am interested on what you think should be done when a woman and a man marry. (Gay marriage is not on the poll because it hasn't been around long enough for me to notice any patterns)

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post #2 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 11:04 AM
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Both should keep their names

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post #3 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 01:47 PM
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Second last option.

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post #4 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 02:00 PM
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i'd only change it if my hubby's last name sounds better than mine.
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post #5 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 02:15 PM
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It's a personal choice. I always think it's nicer if a couple is called Mr and Mrs something. I would change to my husbands name because I have a horrible surname. Even if I did keep my name. I would never give a child 2 surnames. I find combined names annoying.
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post #6 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 02:33 PM
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Why should anyone change his surname???

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post #7 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 03:27 PM
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post #8 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 03:40 PM
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Even if a woman doesn't change her name, people will call her by her husbands name anyway, like Cherie Booth, so why bother?
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post #9 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 04:06 PM
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In Belgium, you have no choice. You always keep your own name. A woman is allowed to use her husband's name for all sorts of things, but her passport will have her maiden name.

Justine Henin-Hardenne is officially still known as Justine Henin.

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post #10 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 05:09 PM
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Okay I think couples should trade their names off each other, that'd be cool !
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post #11 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 06:32 PM
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The love of my life can't wait to change her name to mine.

I can't blame her really...

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post #12 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 07:00 PM
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both should keep their names, unless one of them has a really ugly or ridiculous name that he/she always hated.



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post #13 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 07:39 PM
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its basically based on choice and sometimes the religion.

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post #14 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 07:41 PM
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I think it would be cool if both parties hyphenated their names; except if it comes out looking funky like Manigault-Stallworth .

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post #15 of 52 (permalink) Old Sep 26th, 2004, 10:19 PM
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well in my country both keeps their names by law after marrying... and I'm agree with that. Women aren't a possession of their husbands, hence there is no need to impose his "name" to them.

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