That's because they are not really interested in a player as a person,but interested only in what he/she represents to them on the tennis court,which makes it a bit selfish.
For us in Serbia Monica is still a huge star,like Novak Djokovic is...but people don't fool themselves by saying that Djokovic is greater then Federer just because he is closer to our hearts,if you understand what I mean.
Yes, I understand what you mean.
If I understand you correctly, basically what you're saying is 'Steffi was the better player (whether it was their respective games, resiliency, longevity, records, etc.), and you don't let Monica's early start, H2H etc., define her ultimate place in tennis history'.
And I agree with you, that many here stanning for Monica, couldn't care less about what she says and her feelings. Like you indicated, they more care, WHAT THEY WANT TO BELIEVE--to foster any hatred or questions they have for or about Graf.
It was a very unfortunate incident. Tragic. However, there was a time after. And whether Monica was mentally incapable of playing or not, because of it (you may know this more than I), how do we judge her results after, if we knew she was physically capable of playing 1 week after?
I think this is where the "Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda's" make rational or Graf supporters ask questions or doubt these claims (kind what you were saying earlier), though we all feel for Monica's situation, but nonetheless makes us look bad with these rabid supporters.