Re: Safina talks about the loss of her grandfather, the lack of friends...
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Dinara Searches for Real Friends; Marat Disdains Playing Ugly
FROM THE BNP PARIBAS OPEN IN INDIAN WELLS – Leave it to the Safins to splash color on an otherwise fairly routine Tuesday at the Indian Wells Tennis Garden.
Possibly the most honest, forthright, funny interesting and occasionally dour sibling pair in tennis history.
Dinara continued her headstrong charge toward the No. 1 ranking with a workmanlike 7 5, 6 4 win over Jill Craybas in the 4th round. Her older brother Marat continued his determined march toward retirement with a 6 4, 6 4 third round loss to the suddenly hot John Isner.
Dinara was introspective after her victory, discussing how much she missed out on life as a cradle to grave player, her lack of real friends and the death of her paternal grandfather, Alexei, just prior to the Australian Open.
Like Marat, she’s emotional, but she has a bit of a softer side. She revealed herself on court and off, never concerned that she’s allowing the public to get too close to her private life. She’s a deep-lunged breath of fresh air in a sport that has too many players who are taught that stale conversation and guarded answers are an acceptable. way to live.
Dinara says that she missed out on a normal childhood, but she always seems to be in search of answers, which means that her life journey should be fruitful, if not trying.
“It’s because we have no other life, “ she said. “ We don't know anything. Basically when we stop tennis we have to learn so many new things. It's not easy to learn by age 30 or what to do in your life. I think that's why many players keep playing, because they try to stop but they cannot find themselves. You're playing tennis, you have to go to practice, and suddenly you stop and you have so much time. You need to occupy that. It's great for some people who have a family then. They take care of their kids.
But some of them, they don't have family. I think it's not an easy to finish the tennis and to decide what you want to do in your life.”
Safina badly wants to start a family, but as she says, she first has to find a man that she can spend the rest of her life with. She adores children and would likely make a very good teacher.
“Yeah, to have babies… So this is going to be the main thing,” she said. “Well, and just grow them up and give all the love that I have to them.
Beside tennis, I don't know. It also depends where I'm going to live. I mean, for sure it's going to be something with tennis or with sport. Manager, I have to learn many things about this. But I would like to experiment myself.”
Safina appears to be friendly with many of the other Russian players, but she says she doesn’t feel particularly close to anyone outside of her team and Marat. It’s a cutthroat tour and she was taught at a young age not to reveal too much of herself less someone try to take advantage of her. Outside of tennis, she has few folks she can call on.
“Kids, they go to school and they have so many friends,” she said. “I come to Moscow it's good now. I have two, three friends, but there was a moment there was nobody. You come home and you sit at home, and there's nothing else to do.
So now I start to create friends It's not easy, because you can meet many fake people, and especially now when you're higher ranked, so many friends are going to be there. Because when you grow up from school, then you know they're really friends. just hang around and just play the games. These things I think I missed.”
. A COLD WORLD
On tour though, despite the countless photos of her laughing with her Russian teammates, she doesn’t feel close to anyone. It’s a cold tennis world that contests brutal matches on hot courts.
“There is no friendship,” she said. “As I always say, we're colleagues. Of course we talk to each other, but for sure you cannot say to the girl how you feel, that something is bothering you. Maybe today you woke up on the wrong foot.”
In a previously undisclosed bit of news, Safina revealed that she and Marat’s 90-year-old paternal grandfather, Alexei, died just before the Australian Open, A veteran of World War II, Safina felt close to him. After his wife died, he really started to follow Marat and Dinara’s tennis, which she said brought him a lot of joy, and angst. She didn’t find out until before her contest with Kaia Kanepi, two weeks after he had passed, because they didn’t want to upset her.
“To whom can I go and cry except my team? “ she said. My brother I can go, but if I tell to one of the players, what's she going to go and talk to the opponent, she's feeling bad. Her grandfather just died. So these things are tough. I really was shocked. Then I called my parents and I was like, is it true? I was glad that I just saw him before I left Australia. You always wish they can live forever. Then I just said, Okay, I try to win this match for him. Actually, I wanted to win the tournament for him. Pity I lost in the final.”
Marat just played his last Indian Wells, which is too bad, for as bad as he’s been in the desert --- and he’s been downright awful at times during the past decade – the two-time Slam always has a story to tell. Isner is serving beautifully, especially with his kick serve, and he whacked his forehand impressively too, as well as volleying consistently. He never gave Marat rhythm and Marat hated that. In fact, he despised how he started playing like his 6-foot-10 inch foe.
“Boring. Difficult match. Great server,” Safin said. “Didn't find myself comfortable on the court any time in the match. That's why the match was 6 4, 6 4 and without really any chances. If you're feeling comfortable on the court and you are a little bit confident, then it's a little bit easier [to return]. But it's not as difficult as Roddick's serve or as Karlovic.
The thing is, if you're not serving well yourself, of course you're going to find yourself under pressure. You need to return, and of course extra pressure doesn't help you much. And that's why when you have to return, you don't return. Also from the baseline you can't do anything. You start to play with him, and eventually you end up playing like him, which is not his best game. It's a sad story.”
It’s not as if Safin has always been a treat to watch. Even though he can volley and when he sets his mind to it, he can mix it up, but he has a pretty straight forward arsenal and when he’s not on, or into a match, he can be pretty boring to watch, too. Depending on his mood, ingesting his game is either like chewing on stale piece of black licorice, or sucking down a fresh red one.
He’s up, he; down, he’s Dinara’s watchful older brother, delightful and irritating at the same time.
“ It's me. It's my tennis. It's my career,” he said.
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