I'm sure you would have had a great undergrad experience at Stanford as well, but I understand what you are saying about the things that are specific to Duke. Based on what you just said and your twitter bio (I'm a creep), it's true Stanford would not have the same prominence of cultural subsets you enjoy.
Oh P.S. speaking of revenue sports, how was Duke's football team this year? How was Stanford's?
Ah, but note that I said championships on purpose! Stanford occasionally has excellent teams in both basketball and football, but they have yet to win national championships in either (to my knowledge). Lol about my twitter bio. Duke is the lone refuge among the top schools for my kind. And yes, I would have had a great experience too. It's hard to have a bad experience with a school like Stanford and weather like Northern California's.